| Feminist philosophical analyses have recently returned to psychoanalytic theory?s insights into the origins of gender. Freud?s exegesis on social development holds gender to be a matter of identification, as opposed to an ontological condition of being. This article considers Judith Butler?s use of psychoanalytic theory to argue that homosexuality both precedes and conditions the formation of heterosexual gender identification. While convinced the processes of identification do involve loss and are grieved in some way, I am less convinced that the precedence of either heterosexuality or homosexuality can be logically sustained. I suggest that Butler?s political commitment to subvert the hetero-normative gender system leads to a conflation of identification with desire, two distinct processes involving different psychic mechanisms. I want to argue that all gender is melancholic, as any restriction of pleasures entails loss; but the closer to the dominant heteronormative system the greater that failure. |